What I’ve learned from other blogs

1. Anyone who currently uses an agency that (a) has ever received a NOID, (b) refers children from a province where a NOID has been issued, or (c) has referred a child that was the subject of an investigation, is a morally bankrupt (or stupid) person, interested only in a quick referral, and may be willing to engage in corruption. 
2. Anyone who used such an agency in the past (who probably received a “quick referral” back when agencies had them to give and is now home with the child such agency matched them with) is ok, and their adoption is not tainted, so long as they actively denigrate that agency, attack the agency’s clients or bemoan their naivety in choosing the agency. 
3. Anyone who is with one of the agencies that has not (yet) received a NOID, referred a child from one of the questionable provinces or been the subject of an investigation (of which we are aware) is morally and ethically superior to all.

Clearly, the subject is now closed.  All of you in category 1 need to walk away (well, run, really) from your agency (don’t worry about the fact that you still may not have evidence that the agency (and not others in the provinces or at the orphanages themselves) was engaged in wrong-doing or forfeiting the fees you’ve paid, the righteousness you’ll feel from doing so will more than make up for it) and go sign on with one of the “highly ethical” (according to whom, I’m still not sure) agencies.  The only tip I have on finding an agency in category 3 is that apparently the agency has to have signed on over 200 clients, all of whom have paid fees and yet are not going to see a referral for probably 2+ years.  Evidently, it’s highly ethical to bank that cash while you’re holding your clients back from even starting on their dossiers, but who am I to judge?

I guess we don’t have to consider the fate of the children in the provinces where the category 1 agencies are licensed.  Since those agencies are engaged in baby snatching and coercion, I guess that all of those children will be reunited with their birth parents and live happily ever after.  Thank you all for setting me straight.

November 12, 2007 Posted by Oscar and Etta's mom | accountability, Adoption, corruption, Vietnam | 10 Comments