What I’ve learned from other blogs
- Anyone who currently uses an agency that (a) has ever received a NOID, (b) refers children from a province where a NOID has been issued, or (c) has referred a child that was the subject of an investigation, is a morally bankrupt (or stupid) person, interested only in a quick referral, and may be willing to engage in corruption.
- Anyone who used such an agency in the past (who probably received a “quick referral” back when agencies had them to give and is now home with the child such agency matched them with) is ok, and their adoption is not tainted, so long as they actively denigrate that agency, attack the agency’s clients or bemoan their naivety in choosing the agency.
- Anyone who is with one of the agencies that has not (yet) received a NOID, referred a child from one of the questionable provinces or been the subject of an investigation (of which we are aware) is morally and ethically superior to all.
Clearly, the subject is now closed. All of you in category 1 need to walk away (well, run, really) from your agency (don’t worry about the fact that you still may not have evidence that the agency (and not others in the provinces or at the orphanages themselves) was engaged in wrong-doing or forfeiting the fees you’ve paid, the righteousness you’ll feel from doing so will more than make up for it) and go sign on with one of the “highly ethical” (according to whom, I’m still not sure) agencies. The only tip I have on finding an agency in category 3 is that apparently the agency has to have signed on over 200 clients, all of whom have paid fees and yet are not going to see a referral for probably 2+ years. Evidently, it’s highly ethical to bank that cash while you’re holding your clients back from even starting on their dossiers, but who am I to judge?
I guess we don’t have to consider the fate of the children in the provinces where the category 1 agencies are licensed. Since those agencies are engaged in baby snatching and coercion, I guess that all of those children will be reunited with their birth parents and live happily ever after. Thank you all for setting me straight.
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Haha. This is so true. I spent some time perusing the blogs of the loudest squawkers, and many of them had “fast” referrals (3-5 months w/in DTV) and some even from the provinces currently under fire, and not all that long ago. I assume all of these people are booking flights right now to take the children back and return them to their rightful birth parents or to return them to the orphanage until their birthparents can be found.
I almost wrote the same thing (about returning their kids), but some of these people actually scare me, so I held back.
Hear, hear! Thanks. You made me smile.
Oh…Thank you so much for that! ‘Bout time you got straightened out…hahaha! Great post!
The internet is full of useful facts and information, isn’t it?
At times like this, I envy those that don’t have a computer. Not that burying my head in the sand is the right thing to do… it’d just be a lot easier on my emotional state!
I’m a number #1er whch would explain why I have been feeling stupid and morally corrupt lately. Thanks for the laugh Michelle- we need more voices out here like you. Great Post!
I think that sums the current debate up nicely. Aren’t we all fortunate to have so many adoption “experts” to tell us what to do?
Thanks for the post! So true!
I am, apparently, very behind in my blog-reading and am just catching up tonight. Thank God I decided to go back and catch up on my reading because this post is so great!!! You have summed up my feelings so perfectly. Thank you for this–it made my day!
I wish I had read this back in the day. It would’ve helped me tremendously, as I felt like I was the only horrible unethical person out there who didn’t take every word of the experts as gospel.