Where did I fail you?
I’ve tried to be a good mother. I’ve read all the books everyone recommends to me, I try to keep an open mind, I spend time with my son (both the quality and quantity type). So, how, I wonder, did this happen?
My son does not like cake. There, I’ve said it. I was going to hide it from you, but in the hope that I might be able to help other parents come out of the closet on this, I thought I would share. I’ve tried so hard to develop good, healthy eating habits in my son that evidently I forgot to introduce him to “sweets.” He loves fruit, especially mixed in with ricotta cheese, so apparently he’s ok with the concept of sweet foods. He also loves maple syrup (as evidenced by his current love affair with waffles). But when faced with the culinary delight that is a vanilla cupcake with buttercream frosting, he wasn’t about to have any of it.
I mean, could he be more bored?
It’s not good when your child prefers to stick the cupcake into his ear instead of eating it. Luckily, Max was there waiting to clean up Oscar’s mess.
Even Nanny Norma was disappointed. She even interjected the dreaded, “in my country, kids like the sugary treats.” My failure is on a global level.
I vow that next year’s birthday will be different. From now on, this child will be on a daily diet of sugary, processed foods. No more of this healthy nonsense. Forget about the organic fruits and veggies. The only fruit this kid is going to see is as a garnish on his sugar-infused, super-sized snacks. I will fix this.
Homestudy update
I LOVED the homestudy agency I used when I adopted Oscar. From the front-office staff, to the director to my social worker, they were wonderful. Loved them. Unfortunately, my agency was acquired by another agency last year. These people so far have been HORRIBLE. I called them before I traveled to VN and they completely blew me off. I didn’t know whether I really needed anything from them, so I didn’t worry too much about it. Since I decided to actually go forward with an Ethiopian adoption, though, they’ve shown themselves to be just as inept and uninterested in me as before. I first called them 11 days ago to talk about updating my homestudy. Great, they said, I just need to get some info out to you and we’ll be on our way. So, I waited. And waited. Nothing arrived. I called back on Monday and got the snottiest woman ever on the phone telling me I just needed to wait until I got the papers. Fast forward to today and still nothing.
I’m not in a rush to complete this adoption. Of course, I’d love to have him/her home as soon as possible, but I’ve got Oscar now and I’m happy to keep things as they are for a while. Life is good. I do, though, want to complete my dossier. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to get a response from an agency that is going to charge me another $1800 for an update (down from $2600 – woo hoo!) within a week. I’m going to have to call them again on Monday. How do I get them to actually get me the docs I need without sounding like a shrew? I would go with another agency, but I suspect I would have to start from scratch, and I really do want to use the same SW. Ugh. This is the only thing about adoption I don’t like – the fact that so many third parties are so involved in my family planning.
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