http://malodorousmesses.com/2008/08/18/then-and-now-self-doubt/ Mon, 12 Sep 2011 02:56:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://malodorousmesses.com/2008/08/18/then-and-now-self-doubt/#comment-449 Tue, 19 Aug 2008 20:56:56 +0000 http://singleandpaperpregnant.wordpress.com/?p=512#comment-449 Those monkey-thoughts are doing a lot of jumping around! When I read your post, I thought of my husband’s accident three years ago when he broke his neck in the same location that paralyzed Christopher Reeve. Husband got said neck bones bolted together with titanium and is now a bit turtle-like in turning, but good as new. Point being that it’s all such a crap shoot. From what I’ve read on your blog, you have the capacity to deal – you’re resilient, thoughtful, self-aware, capable. But questioning and self-doubt is understandable. Hang in there during all of the process… A fellow AP in Santa Cruz

]]> http://malodorousmesses.com/2008/08/18/then-and-now-self-doubt/#comment-447 Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:49:45 +0000 http://singleandpaperpregnant.wordpress.com/?p=512#comment-447 Wow, that is certainly a lot to deal with at one time. I give you a lot of credit for taking on something that can be so difficult a decision. I think it is good that you are going through the process of thinking all of this out and letting your emotions and worries work through how you want to approach this. Sometimes it just takes time to figure out the best thing to do. Unknowingly, your mind is already working on it for you.

]]> http://malodorousmesses.com/2008/08/18/then-and-now-self-doubt/#comment-446 Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:25:01 +0000 http://singleandpaperpregnant.wordpress.com/?p=512#comment-446 My MIL had definite issues about our HIV+ son. We eventually had to take the approach of informing her that this was going to happen and that if she wanted a role in her child’s (and GC’s) life her perspective would have to change. It’s a paradigm shift for a lot of people when they have to introduce a disease like this to their family. It’s much easier to say that HIV is a gay disease or that its victims brought it on themselves when you don’t have an HIV+ family member whose sole reason for having the disease in the first place was having been born. It gets easier (and then harder and then easier again) as you progress down this road. Your self-doubt is the norm, if that helps. I personally wigged out so badly that I wanted to call things off one week before travel. Luckily had the wife to bring me to my senses.

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