The drama

has already begun.  Less than a week after the Nepali adoption program reopened, allegations of corruption (at least potential corruption) abound. Of course it was going to happen; it just is emotionally draining.  The one thing that is making me feel better is that THIS time I chose one of those ethical adoption agencies.  You know, one of those Hague accredited types that gets touted by people as one of the good agencies.  FAR more important to me is that it’s one (or perhaps it’s the only one) that has flat out said that this is a pilot program and that if things don’t proceed appropriately, the program will be over.  Fine by me.*  

I don’t mean to imply that my agency is more ethical than any other.  I’m not in a position to make that assessment. Frankly, I don’t know if anyone is.  The reason I mention ethics is that I’ve been a client of an agency that had, shall we say, a less than sterling reputation.  I’ve listened to/read many allegations against them.  I’ve experienced a lot of stress as a result. Adoption is a stressful endeavor.  I don’t want/need my agency’s reputation to be a source of stress again.  

* I note that I would not have this attitude had I not just adopted from Vietnam.  Two things contribute to this.  First, I already have a perfect child at home.  While it’s important to me to add to my family, I’m far more relaxed about it now.  Second, I know there are other options out there.  Not a lot of options for singles, but there are some, and if “irregularities” occur in this program, I would truly prefer not having any part in them.

On an unrelated note, I’ve decided to try to include a photo with my posts.  Reading to Oscar has shown me that stories with pictures are far more interesting than those without.  I’ll spare you the narrative of describing what’s in the photo (e.g., there’s a horsey in front of the mountains)…

January 7, 2009 Posted by Oscar and Etta's mom | Adoption, Nepal | Leave a Comment